Wednesday, April 20, 2005

Dear Boys of the World,

I'm going to share a secret with you.

Girls lie too.
Girls use people too.
Sometimes, a girl will go out with a guy to convince herself she doesn't need another guy.

Now, don't lie, guys do it too. And sometimes, that means that the perfectly nice person who's the unknowing rebound person will get hurt. As for the rebound person...there's nothing you can do about that. While I'm sure they don't hate you, and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you...sometimes people are just looking to exorcise the ghosts of their last person, and, well, you're the unlucky bastard they've chosen to be around for the ride while they do it. Sometimes, that works, & things turn out okay. Most of the time, you're probably gonna get your heart broken. Because even if her family likes you, even if her friends like you better than that last guy...that doesn't mean you're going to be the one she picks. So as much as it hurts, I think you might just have to let it go, 'cause, well, you can't fix them. You can't do it for them, they have to want to move on...and quite often, they're not ready to move on. What it comes down to is that if to them, you're worth making the effort, they would make the effort. But when someone is happy just leaving shit in limbo...I'm sorry my friend, but sometimes for your own sake, you have to walk away.

The truth of the matter is, in the end...girls don't know what they're doing either, & most of the time we're just trying to figure it out as we go. The problem with that of course being a prevalence of fuck-up-ed-ness on both sides of the fence, & a general frelling miracle that anybody finds anyone ever.


~ Claris who's spent the day reminding a cohort to repress the urge to "fix"....


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